Art of Control: Kinky Ink

Game Design: The Method to Our Madness

With this activity, we decided to give couples a way to practice long-term, but not permanent, marking of each other. Marking and inking each other is a fun way to show possession and ownership. By writing an intimate message in a hidden area, you and your lover will give each other a secret love marking that will be carried around as a reminder even when you are apart.

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Couples will practice SUBMISSIVE MINDSET, VULNERABILITY, and TRUST. All couples experimenting with power play or “control” play have to practice letting go of control to their partner. 

The partner receiving the henna tattoo can set their own limits as to where the henna may be placed; for example, henna markings on the face or on the arms may not be acceptable for a work environment. However, once the receiving partner has set their limits, they must give their partner consent to mark anywhere else. 

Where to Ink:

Get creative! You can mark anywhere on the body besides the areas your lover has indicated are limits… and you can make the message as large or small as you want. 

For example:

  • Write "Mine" right at the crease of your lover's butt. 
  • Draw a small heart on the ribcage.
  • Write your name on the sole of your lover's foot.
  • Draw a meaningful symbol on your lover's inner thigh.

Henna Care: 

Henna ingredients: Mehndi powder, guar gum, food grade colors, food grade preservatives, Paper for Henna Applicator Cones, Distilled water, Eucalyptus oil, Nilgiri oil

Make sure to test a small dot of henna paste on your skin and your partner’s skin to ensure you do not have any allergic reactions first. 

DO NOT TOSS AWAY THE GREEN CAP! Once you both are done using the tube, if you still have leftovers and wish to use it again, cap the tube with the thin green cap and place it in the freezer. This ensures the paste will not become oxidized (which would render the paste useless).