Our Sexperiment Funsheet was graciously shared by Effy Blue, a master relationship coach specializing in ethical non-monogamy and nontraditional relationship structures. Effy also teaches an online and in-person workshop for those who are interested in attending Sex parties called Play Party Etiquette. Follow and connect with Effy Blue at effyblue.com or on Facebook.
We love Effy's approach to open intimate communication in this game, which not only asks couples to identify their comfort level with the listed acts, but also to indicate their level of knowledge of each. You can pair this Sexperiment Funsheet with "Yes, And" or "Fucket List", or use it as a solo game.
This funsheet is a tool to guide and support your sexual exploration into adventure and kink, solo or with a partner(s). This is by no means an exhaustive list. Human sexual desires are varied and expansive so allow yourself to dig deep. Get creative and feel free to add activities not covered. I strongly recommend you print this and make a date out of it without screens and distractions. HAVE FUN!!!
For each item on the lists, indicate your "DESIRE", "KNOWLEDGE", and "EXPERIENCE".
DESIRE - How much do you want to try/engage in the activity out of 5?
0: No interest at all
5: Can't wait to get down to it
KNOWLEDGE - Discuss how much you know about the activity so you can approach it with confidence. There is no shame in not knowing things and research can be a lot of fun.
EXPERIENCE - Discuss your experience doing this activity and how it felt.
This is great when doing this exercise with someone else as it can help in deciding who's going to take the lead.
We have separated these lists into 3: "TOYS", "LIGHTER PLAY", and "HEAVIER PLAY". We recommend going through one list at a time.
The activities in this play list range from "traditional" to "light kink", and are great for building trust and communication. Always go slowly and proceed with open communication when trying something new.
BEING SERVICED (SEXUAL)
EYE CONTACT RESTRICTIONS
MODELING FOR EROTIC PHOTOS
MASTURBATION (SHOWING OFF)
VIDEO (MAKING RECORDINGS)
VIDEO (WATCHING OTHERS)
The activities in this play list generally require a higher level of trust, intimacy, and sexperience. They also may involve more intense psychological or physical play. Always go slowly and proceed with open communication when trying something new.
(LOCKED INSIDE OF)
MANACLES & IRONS
PAIN (MILD TO SEVERE)
(WITH ONE OTHER COUPLE)
VIOLET WAND (ELECTRICAL TOY)