Art of Control: "Sexperiment Funsheet"

My Post (4).jpg

Our Sexperiment Funsheet was graciously shared by Effy Blue, a master relationship coach specializing in ethical non-monogamy and nontraditional relationship structures. Effy also teaches an online and in-person workshop for those who are interested in attending Sex parties called Play Party Etiquette. Follow and connect with Effy Blue at effyblue.com or on Facebook.

The Game

We love Effy's approach to open intimate communication in this game, which not only asks couples to identify their comfort level with the listed acts, but also to indicate their level of knowledge of each. You can pair this Sexperiment Funsheet with "Yes, And" or "Fucket List", or use it as a solo game.

Effy's Instructions:

This funsheet is a tool to guide and support your sexual exploration into adventure and kink, solo or with a partner(s). This is by no means an exhaustive list. Human sexual desires are varied and expansive so allow yourself to dig deep. Get creative and feel free to add activities not covered. I strongly recommend you print this and make a date out of it without screens and distractions. HAVE FUN!!!

For each item on the lists, indicate your "DESIRE", "KNOWLEDGE", and "EXPERIENCE".

DESIRE - How much do you want to try/engage in the activity out of 5?
0: No interest at all
5: Can't wait to get down to it

KNOWLEDGE - Discuss how much you know about the activity so you can approach it with confidence. There is no shame in not knowing things and research can be a lot of fun.

EXPERIENCE - Discuss your experience doing this activity and how it felt.
This is great when doing this exercise with someone else as it can help in deciding who's going to take the lead.

We have separated these lists into 3: "TOYS", "LIGHTER PLAY", and "HEAVIER PLAY". We recommend going through one list at a time.


TOYS

 

BLINDFOLDS

BODY PAINT
(EDIBLE)

BODY PAINT
(NON-EDIBLE)

BUTT PLUGS

CLOTHESPINS

COCK RINGS

CORSETS

CUFFS
(LEATHER/METAL)

CUFFS
(SILICONE)

DILDOS

GAGS

HAIRBRUSH

HIGH HEELS

ICE CUBES

LEATHER CLOTHING

LINGERIE

RUBBER/LATEX CLOTHING

UNIFORMS

RIDING CROPS

SPREADER BARS

STOCKS

TIGHTS

VIBRATORS

DESIRE

KNOWLEDGE

EXPERIENCE


LIGHTER PLAY
The activities in this play list range from "traditional" to "light kink", and are great for building trust and communication. Always go slowly and proceed with open communication when trying something new.

 

ANAL SEX

BEING BLINDFOLDED

BLINDFOLDING

COCK/PUSSY WORSHIP

CROSS-DRESSING

GENITAL SEX

BEING SERVICED (SEXUAL)

BITING/NIBBLING

BREATHPLAY
LIGHT CHOKING

EROTIC DANCING

FULL-BODY KISSING

EDGING
ORGASM TEASE

EROTIC DANCING
STRIP TEASE

EYE CONTACT RESTRICTIONS

FOLLOWING ORDERS

FOOD PLAY

FOOT WORSHIP

HAIR PULLING

MASSAGE
(GIVING)

MASSAGE
(RECEIVING)

MODELING FOR EROTIC PHOTOS

MASTURBATION (WATCHING)

MASTURBATION (SHOWING OFF)

MUTUAL MASTURBATION

NIPPLE PLAY

ORAL SEX
ANAL (“RIMMING”)

ORAL SEX
BLOWJOB

ORAL SEX
CUNNILINGUS

ORGASM DENIAL

OUTDOOR SEX

OVER-THE-KNEE SPANKING

PHONE SEX

PINCHING

ROLEPLAY

SCRATCHING
(GIVING)

SCRATCHING (RECEIVING)

SHIBARI/ROPEPLAY

SKINNY-DIPPING

TANTRIC SEX

TEASING

TEMPERATURE PLAY

VIDEO (MAKING RECORDINGS)

VIDEO (WATCHING OTHERS)

WAX PLAY

DESIRE

KNOWLEDGE

EXPERIENCE


HEAVIER PLAY
The activities in this play list generally require a higher level of trust, intimacy, and sexperience. They also may involve more intense psychological or physical play. Always go slowly and proceed with open communication when trying something new.

 

BRUISES

BEATING
(HANDS)

BEATING
(IMPLEMENTS)

BONDAGE (HEAVY/SUSPENSION)

BONDAGE (INTRICATE/SHIBARI)

CAGES
(LOCKED INSIDE OF)

CANING

CHAINS

CHASTITY BELTS

DOUBLE PENETRATION

FACE SLAPPING

FISTING

FLOGGING

HAIRBRUSH SPANKINGS

KNEELING

MANACLES & IRONS

MARKS (GIVING)

MARKS (RECEIVING)

PAIN (MILD TO SEVERE)

PET PLAY

PLAY KIDNAPPING

PUNISHMENT SCENE

PUSSY/COCK WHIPPING/SPANKING

SARAN WRAPPING

STOCKS

SWAPPING
(WITH ONE OTHER COUPLE)

SWINGING
(MULTIPLE COUPLES)

TATTOOING

TENS UNIT
(ELECTRICAL TOY)

THUMBCUFFS
(METAL)

TRIPLE PENETRATION

VIOLET WAND (ELECTRICAL TOY)

WHIPS

WOODEN PADDLES

DESIRE

KNOWLEDGE

EXPERIENCE